What are your goals this year? How will you attain them?

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Jan 062017

retreatThe other day, I asked my husband if he had any New Years Resolutions. He answered in a way that is similar to how I feel. He said, “I feel like I’m continuously working on myself. Not just once a year.”

But, starting the calendar year, there are certainly goals (business, health, financial) I want to attain. I have plans. A lot of them. And from experience, I know that when I get those plans onto paper, something magical happens.

When I was studying Yoga Therapy at  Re:Source I took a workshop with Carina Raisman and Peter Lavoie called Move, Meditate, Manifest. We learned very simple ways to get our desires and goals … organized… so the Universe can help make those things happen. I came up with personal, professional and health goals for 10, 5, 1 years and the present moment. When I looked at my goals a year later, I’d reached all my short term goals and was even as far along as five years in the future with some stuff!

Was it magic? Partly. But as Melanie Richards, the owner of Happy Tree, says (or was it Lisa Lajoie?), “The Universe is not your bitch.” What does that mean? We can set goals, send them out into the ether, but most of the time we’re going to have to work towards bringing things to fruition.

retreat1For me, I like to use a simple chart to get organized, based on what I learned with Carina and Peter. Some people like to create a vision board. There are lots of examples on Pinterest, and my friend, Stephanie is hosting a workshop called CRAFTING YOUR VISION FOR 2017: Exploring Your Life Path through Creative Wisdom on Saturday, January 14, if you would enjoy being guided through the process.

I’ve written before about this subject… The Law of Attraction, as it’s sometimes called. But the thing I keep remembering is that this is a process of Co-creation. That a prayer for something is far less likely to manifest into something real, than if we take real and concrete steps toward attaining our goals.

For me, last year I was working hard to achieve a better work-life balance. I can tell you, that I just got to spend nearly two weeks off with my kids, who were off school for the holiday. Career choices my husband and I have made allow us to do this and I don’t take this for granted for a minute. I also set an intention to consolidate my schedule, minimizing the amount of time I spend running from studio to studio, and I decided I would no longer teach regular classes on the weekend. So that was 2016. What about 2017?

My vision board or my goal setting chart for the year, isn’t something I’m going to post here. It’s something I am putting together and will keep close by to remind myself of where I am, where I’m going, and how I need to get there.

What would you like to feel, create or experience this year? This month? Right now?

I’m hoping that by writing this, you will start to think about doing something similar if you haven’t already. And I’m hoping that if you’re a parent, you help your children understand that they really can do and be anything they want.

Happy New Year!




Jul 012016

lightWe spontaneously found ourselves out for Chinese food the other day. The kids ate loads. I discovered General Tao tofu tastes just as good as the chicken. The highlight was fortune cookie time. We’d recently seen Freaky Friday and the kids were excited about the magic of the fortune. Bug’s read, “You will get new clothes.” Babes read,

“Happiness is directly related to your outlook on life.”

How perfect. I’d already been spending time thinking about how where we choose to focus our energy, or attention, shapes what our life looks like.

I do believe in the Law of Attraction (read about how I got a midwife). I read the Secret, and adore Louise Hay and Abraham Hicks. I believe we are co-creators in this thing called life. That means we put our energy into what it is we want, then things begin to unfold. It doesn’t mean we sit back and do nothing. We need to take steps, working with the Universe to create the life we want. As my teacher Melanie Richards, and her teacher Lisa Lajoie have said, “The Universe isn’t your bitch.” Sometimes some of these Spiritual/Self Help books leave out this detail. We need to actively participate in reaching our goals. Just wishing to be a millionaire won’t make you a millionaire. For example.

But I digress… It does all start with where we focus our energy (or attention, if that’s easier to pallet). And if we’re focussing on what we don’t want, that is what grows.

Do you remember my self fulfilling induction prophecy? Instead of focusing my attention on the birth I didn’t want, I’d have been wiser to focus on the one I did want. Which is what I did the second time around. More favourable outcome.

This doesn’t just play out in labour (and we know there are many factors in labour and pregnancy we cannot control). This affects every area of our life as a mom and also as a regular ol’ human being.

I’ve been talking about this in my yoga classes all week, and will leave you, dear reader, with the same story I told to my students. Of course in Yoga, we’re not really thinking in terms of “Good” and “Bad,” but this story illustrates exactly what I’m talking about.

Two Wolves
A Cherokee Legend

An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.

“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”