Guest Post by Cristina Cavalieri D’Oro
Depression/suicide has been in the news lately after the death of the wonderful actor Robin Williams. I wanted to share my personal experience with this and what I did to overcome it in the hopes that it will help anyone who might be experiencing this right now.
I was diagnosed with depression in my teens/early twenties and eventually overdosed on prescribed medication (luckily I made it back!) I was stuck in a vicious cycle of anger, loathing and self-hate. I hated the person looking back at me in the mirror and I wasn’t living the life I wanted.
Not surprisingly, I ended up in an abusive marriage that was just reflecting what I was feeling about myself. It wasn’t until I got out of the role of being a ‘victim’ and taking responsibility for my life, where I was, how I was feeling and where I wanted to go, that I really started seeing changes, I learned how to forgive and love myself.
I decided to make a difference in my life and started reading Louise Hay’s book, ‘You can heal your life.’ It was the first book that got me on this journey of self-healing. I also changed my diet and lifestyle COMPLETELY from a full junk food, processed diet to a more whole food based diet. I stopped drinking (escaping) and took charge. I seeked the tools that I needed for my personal healing and decided to invest in myself fully (and still do).
How did this all happen? By FIRST making a choice to do so. Not doing something because someone told me to do so or for someone else but really ME deciding that I wanted to change – letting go of all the mental shackles that were keeping me down, that were put there and that I had decided to keep consciously and subconsciously. Was it easy? No. Was it worth it? Hell yeah!
This is why I’m so passionate about providing healthy foods for our children, these chemical refined foods affects our behaviours, affects our moods, and our hormones.
This is why I’m also keen on parenting differently. When my kids hit a sensitive spot in me and my initial reaction and urge it to scream, to yell, to just want to grab them, I take a moment to breathe and remind myself what these words and actions will do to these little people. How it will affect their confidence and their self-worth. I am doing it differently not because I think I’m better than anyone else but because I’m CHOOSING to break this cycle and do the work to keep improving myself which will them reflect on my children and the world.
If I need help, I get it. If I have a million excuses as to why I shouldn’t, I crush them. If I slip, I get back up and keep going forward.
This is an ongoing process and is life.
- pick up an inspirational book
- call someone POSITIVE
- make a list of all the things that you’re grateful for
- surround yourself with high energy people
- change your diet
- question your thoughts and beliefs
- energy attracts energy, work on your mindset
EVERY person is different and affected in different ways but the bottom line is the same. Getting the help you need is a must but the first way to any sort of lasting healing is MAKING THE CHOICE to value yourself, MAKING THE CHOICE to love yourself, wanting to make real change and putting the effort and investment in yourself. After that the pieces will fall into place, there will still be times when you fall but a lot more times of getting back up and leading you to the road of doing what you came here to do!
This is how depression was a wake-up call for me. I hope that this might help and inspire anyone who is going through this right now. To seek the right tools for your healing and self-growth but most importantly to make the initial CHOICE to start loving yourself unconditionally and to know that you are sooooo worth the effort!
Because I’m so damn glad I did and I’m still here to be able to experience all this love!
Cristina is a health coach based in Montreal. Visit her at For the Love of Greens.