We spontaneously found ourselves out for Chinese food the other day. The kids ate loads. I discovered General Tao tofu tastes just as good as the chicken. The highlight was fortune cookie time. We’d recently seen Freaky Friday and the kids were excited about the magic of the fortune. Bug’s read, “You will get new clothes.” Babes read,
“Happiness is directly related to your outlook on life.”
How perfect. I’d already been spending time thinking about how where we choose to focus our energy, or attention, shapes what our life looks like.
I do believe in the Law of Attraction (read about how I got a midwife). I read the Secret, and adore Louise Hay and Abraham Hicks. I believe we are co-creators in this thing called life. That means we put our energy into what it is we want, then things begin to unfold. It doesn’t mean we sit back and do nothing. We need to take steps, working with the Universe to create the life we want. As my teacher Melanie Richards, and her teacher Lisa Lajoie have said, “The Universe isn’t your bitch.” Sometimes some of these Spiritual/Self Help books leave out this detail. We need to actively participate in reaching our goals. Just wishing to be a millionaire won’t make you a millionaire. For example.
But I digress… It does all start with where we focus our energy (or attention, if that’s easier to pallet). And if we’re focussing on what we don’t want, that is what grows.
Do you remember my self fulfilling induction prophecy? Instead of focusing my attention on the birth I didn’t want, I’d have been wiser to focus on the one I did want. Which is what I did the second time around. More favourable outcome.
This doesn’t just play out in labour (and we know there are many factors in labour and pregnancy we cannot control). This affects every area of our life as a mom and also as a regular ol’ human being.
I’ve been talking about this in my yoga classes all week, and will leave you, dear reader, with the same story I told to my students. Of course in Yoga, we’re not really thinking in terms of “Good” and “Bad,” but this story illustrates exactly what I’m talking about.
A Cherokee Legend
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.
“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”